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Tuesday, May 6th, 2003
4:49 pm - Marriage Joke
I never have quite figured out why the sexual urges of men & women differ so
much. And I never have figured out the whole Mars &Venus thing. And, I never
have figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.
And, I never yet have figured out how the sexual desire gene gets thrown
into a state of turmoil, when it hears the words "I do".

One evening last week, my wife and I were getting into bed. Well, the
passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, "I don't feel like
it, I just want you to hold me."

I said, "WHAT??" So she says the words that I and every husband on the
planet dreads. She explains that I must not be in tune with her emotional
needs as a Woman.

I'm thinking, "What was her first clue?" I finally realize that nothing is
going to happen that night, so I went to bed.

The very next day then we went shopping at a big unnamed department
store...I walked around while she tried on three very expensive outfits.

She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her to take all three
of them.

She then tells me that she wants matching shoes worth $200 each to which I
say OK. And then we go to the Jewelry Dept. where she gets a set of
diamond earrings. Let me tell you ...she was so excited.
She must have thought that I was one wave short of a shipwreck, but I
don't think she cared. I think she was testing me when she
asked for a tennis bracelet because she doesn't even play tennis. I think
I threw her for a loop when I told her that it was OK.

She was almost sexually excited from all of this and you should have
seen her face when she said, "I'm ready to go, let's go to
the cash register."

I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No, honey. I don't
feel like buying all this stuff now."

You should have seen her face ... it went completely blank. I then
said, "Really honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while."

And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added,
"You must not be in tune with my financial needs as a Man."

I figure that I should be having sex again sometime during the spring thaw
of 2012....

current mood: amused

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Thursday, April 3rd, 2003
10:34 am - Dress
Hot damn! Kristania's so lucky I'm already married and I didn't find this dress before hand.




current mood: envious

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Wednesday, April 2nd, 2003
10:02 am - Whoohoo! A New Icon!
Alright... that's not the only reason I'm updating. It's been too long, I think... this poor journal is starting to feel dusty and neglected already. So I thought I'd do a quick "consolidation" post for those who are still watching.

Pages of pictures:
Setting Up Friday Night (there will be more pictures coming soon)- http://nievita.curvykitty.com/wedding/setup
Ceremony Pictures (I think everyone has seen these)- http://nievita.curvykitty.com/wedding/ceremony
Reception Pictures (Did I not post these to my journal?)- http://nievita.curvykitty.com/wedding/reception
The Beginning of the Wedding Writeup (which will be moved to another URL soon)- http://nievita.curvykitty.com/writeup.html

Honeymoon pictures still need to be loaded off the camera, that's how lame I am. I really think I need to get one of those online gallery programs because making all of these thumbnails is killing me!

We've settled easily into married life, for those who want to know. It's been much more relaxed now that we don't have this huge thing hanging over our heads and sucking all of our money away. Not to say things are instantly easier, since I'm sure I will come up with a new money-sucking project (building an enclosed front patio, maybe?) but infinitely more stress-less.

Hrm... not sure what else to report. Thank You cards should be going out soon; there was a slight delay when we thought our tracking list had dissapeared! Eeek!

For everyone who came, and especially those who pitched in and lent a hand when you could see we needed it, a huge THANK YOU goes out. We both mean that from the heart... I'm so glad that everything turned out as well as it did (there was some question there at the end, wasn't there? *winks*)

current mood: complacent

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Thursday, March 13th, 2003
11:55 am - Archiving
For WeddingPlansCollapse )

current mood: tired

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Wednesday, February 12th, 2003
8:39 pm - Preliminary Veil Pictures
Alright, you have to ignore the lack of makeup/wet hair/chinese food PJs.


It's made of a silver/grey shimmer illusion tulle. Originally I was planning on silver sparkle organza, but after taking some "test shots" it was discovered that the flash reflected off of it so badly that you couldn't even see my face, and since John really -really- wanted the blusher for the ceremony... (I wanted a mantilla. That's what compromise is all about, I guess.)

The pictures suck, but you get the idea. I inserted two wedge shaped panels into the train to create a "teardrop" shape, since the original width of the tulle was only 54" (most bridal tulle is 110"?)

Other than some possible beading, it's done! Whoo!

current mood: tired

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Tuesday, February 11th, 2003
2:11 pm - A Week (and 1/2) To Go!
It’s not that I haven’t had anything to update about, it just that I haven’t had much time to sit down at the computer and type anything out. I’m –so- looking forward to having next week off, even though I won’t really have any time to “relax”… but at least I won’t have to deal with the constant phone calls at work. (Gah! There’s another one!)

Current Projects:

- Making beaded crystal stems like these ones for the bouquets and boutonnieres. I’m not sure why I’m doing this, except that perhaps it’s one of those stupid little details that I’m doing in order to forget about all the BIG details I SHOULD be doing. ;>
- Tomorrow is “Make The Veil Day”. Come hell or high water (preferably neither). Otherwise I’m just going to show up to the wedding with a puff of tulle strapped to my head, and YOU’RE ALL GOING TO LIKE IT!!!! Okay, maybe not.
- Paint the arches that we bought black. Why? Because I want ’em black, that’s why. Again… trivial detail that’s somehow important to me. (They are currently white, in case you’re wondering.)
- Design the stupid cap sleeves for my dress. Then make them.

Things I should be doing, but aren’t:

-All the important stuff. *sighs*

Can’t this just be over already?

current mood: frustrated

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Tuesday, January 21st, 2003
7:43 am - Jewlery Debate
#1 announcement: I am alive. Barely.
#2 announcement: One month away. *faint sound of screaming*
#3 announcement: I need all ya'lls help. Please?

I haven't been able to decide which necklace to wear to the wedding (or, I should say, I've decided but everyone else votes for the other one. I'm feeling thwarted.)

So Help A Girl Out?Collapse )

So... which of the two do you like best? Why?
Why -don't- you like the other one?
If not either, what -should- I wear?



current mood: anxious

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Friday, January 10th, 2003
12:34 pm - To Do List
This weekend, I need to:

- Alter wedding dress (!)
- Finish centerpiece topiaries (only needs glitter added to some)
- Start on Wedding Veil
- Make large Ivy Topiaries
- Make list of things that people can help me with a few days before the wedding (for those family members who are coming early to help)
- Reconcile budget

Things to Pay:

- Send remainder of money to the Marina Parks so we make sure we have the rooms
- Decide if we can't afford the photographer after all, and contact him

current mood: busy

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12:10 pm - Yay early RSVPers!
We got our fist official RSVPs last night, and it felt nice.

I feel more-than-slightly bad, though, because we kept our guest list so small that we had to exclude quite a few friends that I would have loved to invite (some, though, that I haven't seen in years) but didn't think we'd have space for. Now some of our relatives are backing out of being able to come... and I'm not sure whether to keep the maximum density small, or what.


But still happy-happy-happy about RSVPness!

current mood: excited

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Wednesday, January 1st, 2003
9:44 pm - Invitations
I finished our wedding invitations yesterday, and they're waiting to go out with tomorrow's mail. I don't know that I would have done them all by hand if I had it to do again. *grins*

Anyway... I'm fairly pleased with how they turned out. Of course, there are a few flaws that I'm sure no-one will notice but me. The invitations were printed on sheer vellum and attached to a panel of handmade rose petal paper, then wrapped in a jacket of soft silver tissuepaper and tied with sheer red organza ribbon. The handmade paper has a slight linen weave texture, and they were paired with white linen envelopes. Because my handwriting sucks horribly, I wrinkled my nose at ettiquitte and printed the envelopes on the computer. If anyone wants to get snippy about it, they don't have to come to the wedding. ;)

If you want to be surprised when they come in the mail, don't click!

Invitation Sneek PeekCollapse )

current mood: creative

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Saturday, December 28th, 2002
4:53 pm - *sigh*
Note to self:
Cutting off your thumb with the big paper cutter blade won't help speed up the making of invitations. In fact, it will likely hinder the process.

At least the blood won't show up... it just looks like more rosepetals.

current mood: OUCH!!!! *^*^%$#^

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Friday, December 27th, 2002
7:56 am - Pictures of Dresses
I got some pictures of Kristania's dress and Julie's flower girl dress posted on the Attire Page of our website thingy. It's nice to have those things taken care of, especially with Kristania because we got to spend a day playing dress-up and curling our hair and fiddling with makeup which is always a girly good time. And it means things are mostly decided (at least for her... from the pictures it looks like I need to do something drastic to get rid of the poking-out bits in my bun, and put some curls in my hair, and the lip color that I thought was okay looks too pink/burgandy in the photos. *le sigh*)

Here's a pic of Kristania's dress. More details on the page:
Look, she"s wearing glasses!

I'll post some pictures of me someday soon. I'll need your advice on which one (of two) necklaces you like best with my dress. Ohhh! Feel the antici..........


current mood: awake

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Monday, December 16th, 2002
9:45 pm - Since I Have No Digital Camera
I scanned my wedding ring.

It didn't come out all that great, but it might give you an idea of what it looks like...

Top of Ring- Oooohhh... SparkliesSide Top of Ring- Showing Heart Filagree
Side View of Ring- More Hearts!

Diamonds scan horribly. Suffice to say, it's much more blinding in person. *grins*

current mood: optimistic

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Saturday, December 14th, 2002
5:21 pm - Webpage Updates
I've done a quick update on the information found on our wedding webpage. There's now a much more comprehensive Guest Information Page and a newly added Links Page.

I hope at least some of the new information is helpful.

current mood: cold

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Friday, December 13th, 2002
7:40 am - Productive
Dunno why I’m posting about this stuff, except that I’m sorta proud of myself. *smiles*

Yesterday I bought the candles and stand for our Unity Candle ceremony. About $15 total! (Which is much better than the $30-50 that you spend if it’s an officially sanctioned “wedding accessory”. Ugh.) Then I decorated the candles with dried red rose petals saved from Valentine’s Day and other rose bouquets that John has given me in the past, which I think gives the whole meaning of the ceremony a deeper level… showing our history in a tangible artifact. A quick rundown of the method of decoration for those of you who are crafty-types:

Starting tips-
- I found that if I rehydrated the rose petals at least slightly by soaking them in warm water for a few minutes, they were much easier to work with. I’m not sure how the rehydration process would work with other types of dried flowers, but they only needed to be slightly more pliable to work well.
- I melted a white votive candle on the stove top in a disposable pie pan. I found that the wax needed to be –very hot- for the effect to be almost transparent, but the wax of the candle that I was melting tended to smoke or “steam” when it got to the right heat. So I spent a lot of time turning the heat on-and-off to minimize the smoking stuff.
- Originally I tried microwaving the candle in a Tupperware container, but it didn’t work –at all-. Even after 10 minutes of microwaving the candle wasn’t melted. Who woulda thunk?

I used plain white piller candles ($2-$3 at Walmart) and taper candles that I had already as the basis of the set. I melted a white votive candle in a disposable pie pan on the stove top then, using a fairly wide flat stiff bristled paint brush, I painted a thin coat of wax on the back of the (rehydrated) petal of my choice. Then I –immediately- pressed the petal into place on the side of the candle. The thin layer of hot wax adheres the petal to the candle. Then I painted another thin layer of melted wax –over- the petal, sealing it into the candle wax and making it seem like it was imbedded in the candle mold when the candle was made. Again… the hotter the wax, the easier it is to paint and come out with a thin, transparent looking layer of wax over the petal. Continue painting on petals until you’re happy with the decoration and pattern. I made the petals look like they were drifting down the side of the candle and collecting at the bottom, but I think it would also look neat if the candles were completely covered in rose petals.

So… my crafty wedding tip of the day. *smiles*

I also found the stockings I wanted for the wedding. Finally! Who would have thought that sheer silver shimmery stockings would be so %(*&^# hard to find?!? I’ve been looking for months!

current mood: creative

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Tuesday, December 10th, 2002
11:46 am - Some Wedding-y Updating
So… as always, it’s been a while. It’s not that we haven’t been busy, but more that we –have-. Things are moving far too fast, and the hours are ticking away. I don’t know that I’ll be able to finish everything that I want to get done… argh. *sighs*

I guess that’s the negative side of things. Here’s some of the positive:

- We’ve found an officiant for our wedding. This is a –huge- weight off of my shoulders… it makes me feel so much better to finally have someone who will actually make this shindig official! Plus, the Rev. Duda (that’s his name) had no problems with us using our own ceremony wording… I’m very happy about that.
- I’ll be starting to put together the wedding invitations at the end of this week. This is cutting everything a bit close… they need to be mailed a few days after Christmas so I don’t have a whole lot of time to get everything assembled.
- I’ve finished (?) the Flower Girl basket for John’s little sister, Julie. The reason there’s a (?) after finished is because I’m not sure if I’ll put ribbons on it. Right now it’s a silver painted basket with lining of red velvet. Finally, I’ve used that stupid Ren Faire nobles’ fabric for something!
- I’ve finally found my other red-gemmed comb that I bought in Spain, and I’ve figured out how I’ll be doing my hair! I have to cut about 8-10” off, but I need to do that anyway. Basically, my hair will be parted down the center then “swept” up on the sides with the combs, then a lock of hair at the nape of my neck will be pulled up and a bun will be made from the rest of my hair and fastened with the red rhinestone hair clippie-thingy (have I talked about that yet? I found it at Longs… and it was way too expensive but I fell in love). The lock that was pulled up will be pulled over my right shoulder and curled into spirals, and then I’ll spray the whole thing with silver-glitter hairspray, of course!
- I’m working on a cute cage thing (that actually looks like a big egg) that we found in Ross. It will eventually be the place that people can place loose cards if/when they bring them to the wedding; in other words, a completely extraneous and decorative item. It was painted gold but I’ve customized it with my new best friend, silver spraypaint.
- We picked up my wedding ring yesterday! It’s gorgeousgorgeousgorgeous and I want to wear it right now. *sighs* Well… I guess that’s something worth looking forward to… the day when I can wear it legally! (Of course, that’s just the side benefit of everything else, but I like sparklies!)

Hrm… I can’t think of much more right now, which is probably a good thing. Wedding stuff tends to eat your brain if you let it.

Sorry to all my friends and family who may have been feeling neglected lately; I think about you all constantly, it’s just been hard to pick up the phone or answer e-mails. Please don’t take it personally.

current mood: excited

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Thursday, November 21st, 2002
5:27 pm - Exactly
This woman has said everything that I wish I could about meeting someone, for the first time, that you've only known from the phone or the internet.


It's long, but worth it. I cried.

current mood: weepy

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9:43 am - Vintage Brides We Love
Lots of great pictures of bridal fashions from the early 1900's to the 70's, plus articles on how to choose a vintage veil and the etiquette and lore of wearing gloves.

Additional links showing vintage, gothic and "alternative" wedding dresses for sale, but the sizes are tiny. Still, very drool-worthy.

current mood: envious

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Wednesday, November 20th, 2002
5:14 pm - Happiness is a Warm (Glue) Gun
Well, the frustration de jour recently has been the lack of large sized scrap books. For those of you who don’t know, I’ve asked my family and John’s family for photos... photos of us as kids, photos of our parents’ weddings, photos of our parents as kids, photos of our grandparents’ weddings... you get the picture (no pun intended *grins*). My ever-encompassing plan has been to put together a combined family photo album as an heirloom and representation of our immediate family histories. I’m scanning all of the pictures and then reprinting them in black and white, which I think will be a very classy look. Then we hope to have people sign this scrapbook (hopefully more than sign; I’d like for people to fill the pages) instead of a standard boring-yawn guestbook.

This seems like a good idea, yes?

However, I haven’t been able to track down a *&%$^% scrapbook that has pages big enough for my grand design... or if they were big enough, they were paper-slipped-in-plastic-sleeves, which is a good idea in the long run but not a good idea when you’re asking people to sign the plastic pages with their words of wedding wisdom. Plus everything seemed to be hugely expensive... like upwards of $35-40. Ack! And they’re still only 12”x12”... too small! The few that were bigger and had plain paper inside all had black paper... which wouldn’t normally be bad, except for the whole wedding thing.

(I don’t understand this. I have several scrapbooks that I have no idea where I picked up, but they’re all bigger than this. AND they have plain paper in them- although the paper is black. What gives?)

This is when the lightbulb goes on.

Okay, I figured replacing the plastic-coated pages with fancy paper like I had wanted was going to be too expensive. Then, last night, I flashed on the idea of those oversized sketchpads that they sell in art supply stores. It wouldn’t be –too- expensive, would it? And the paper is pretty thick, and it’s white in color. YES!

To make a long story longer, I found a big sketch pad and a fairly inexpensive photo album that I can take apart and replace the plastic photo sleeves with paper inside. I plan on recovering it in the same rose petal paper that the invitations will be made out of. I’m finally excited about something again! Hopefully it won’t be a huge pain-in-the-butt... oh... hopehopehope.

Now if only I could get some excitement about making my wedding veil. *sighs*

current mood: excited

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Wednesday, November 13th, 2002
4:54 pm - Gift Entitlement!

GoingBridal.com is pretty hilarious... it's a breath of fresh air to see someone poking funb at the whole stupid industry.

current mood: amused

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